Curiosity may have killed the cat…
…but it’s a vital ingredient in powerful leadership. The willingness to truly examine our impact on others, to understand how the engrained patterns of behaviours and the comfortable groove we inhabit help or hinder our leadership quality. That sort of curiosity is most definitely of value.
To be fully in our power we need to be willing to explore the nuances of our behaviours and bit by bit, piece by piece, work on refining the rough edges that most certainly show up under stress and pressure, if not at other times.
It’s fine to show your frustration but not in a way that demolishes others and you in the process. Or to express anger or disappointment – but from a place of objective, calm, controlled reflection. Unfettered unleashing of our emotions on others is not only un-leaderly it is inhuman. Taking the time to notice and understand the triggers and put strategies in place to overcome those triggers is extremely empowering.
Carl Jung talks about this sort of thing as ‘being in the grip’. And that’s what it can feel like for many as the strong emotions take hold and leave a sense of a loss of control or guilt at the damage caused when the stress takes over and pushes emotional buttons in what can feel like a random or sudden onslaught within.
Why is this relevant now? Well most executives I know are under extreme pressure and even stress and in many cases they report feeling, and often expressing, emotions that are both strong and unhelpful. Unless there is a commitment to exploring the factors that are causing the loss of inner power and strategies put in place to address them we will be a lot poorer in the collective leadership we bring to the world. Access your curiosity; get to know yourself even better and smooth off the rough edges as you claim your next level of inner power.