Why are we so afraid of ‘conflict’?
This week has had a frisson about it – a series of small moments of tension and challenge, some actual and some perceived. For me they represent a point of curiosity and inquiry. For me personally, the opportunity to notice what’s going on in me that might be needing my attention – emotionally, behaviourally. For the other(s) to do the same. For the situation itself, any tension or conflict represents an opportunity for it to be resolved at a higher level of understanding, creative insight and hopefully quality.
And yet, in my experience, conflict in relationship causes such discomfort that people so often want to avoid, run away or ignore it, which is of course understandable. What if we saw conflict as an opportunity? An opportunity to learn, an opportunity to grow and to build our understanding. Sure we need to develop our skills to handle it well and we need to take a bit of time but the rewards can be incredible.
Through the resolution of conflict we see the preconceptions, assumptions, prejudices and emotional wounds in ourselves and others and we have the opportunity to adjust, heal and live with a higher level of peace and flow in our lives. Which tensions could you be resolving for the better right now in both your personal and work lives? Where’s your opportunity to grow?